When your blissful “I do” sours into a stubborn “I do not,” where do you draw the line, decide on the final straw and call it quits on your married relationship?
In California, there is no need to prove offenses in legal separation cases. This has been the norm since 1970, when it became the first state to enforce the no-fault divorce.
It is enough for one party to seek divorce on any of these two grounds in California: permanent legal incapacity of a spouse to make decisions and irreconcilable differences.
Unrepairable damage to the marriage
According to the California Family Code, irreconcilable differences are “substantial reasons” to end a marriage. It’s an umbrella term without clear-cut examples in the law, for as long as the court accepts them as valid.
Among the usual reasons cited for irreconcilable differences are:
- Clashes on beliefs and opinions: Whether political, religious, behavioral or personality-based
- Infidelity and adultery: Which are not considered illegal in California
- Domestic violence and abuse: Criminal cases could also arise due to misdemeanors
- Loss of intimacy or trust: Could be due to sexual incompatibility or an extended long-distance relationship
- Disagreements on parenting: Includes child-rearing, school concerns and even the choice to have kids at all
- Meddling of in-laws: Especially when they get in the way of family harmony and affect the couple’s decision-making process
- Financial fights: Not just on spending, debts, and lack of contributions to the household but also salary disparities
Other reasons include nonstop arguments, miscommunication, work-life imbalance, time mismanagement and shifts in life goals.
The end of an endgame union
Irreconcilable differences in California pertain to all reasons that don’t fall under “permanent legal incapacity to decide,” whether they are misdemeanors or mistreatments. The offenses may vary in gravity, but they all boil down to the fact that at least one spouse has already reached the end of the road and really wants out of the marriage.